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Bereavement

Losing somebody important is never easy, you may feel lost and alone especially if none of your friends have gone through anything similar.

Below are websites that are specific for people like you who need support after losing a loved one. Remember you’re not alone, and there are young people all over the world that know how you feel. If you are feeling emotions such as anxiety or depression, remember to tell your parent or guardian.

Grieving after losing a loved one:
Grieving is a natural part of bereavement, and everyone grieves differently. You will be feeling a mixture of sadness, shock, guilt, and anger. You have to let yourself go through these, and be sad. You don’t need to feel guilty over the amount of time you spend grieving, or if you start to feel better. People around you will understand if you want time alone, but if you ever do need support your friends and family will always be there.

School Nursing confidential text service -In North East Lincolnshire there is a new service run by the school nursing team – If you’re 11-16 years old TEXT your school nurse on 07507 331620 for confidential advice and support.

Finding support for bereavement:
www.hopeagain.org.uk – Hope Again is a national charity that provides support, advice and information for young people when someone close to them dies. They offer a range of services for you to talk about anything you may feel upset, or confused about. This includes face to face and in groups, as well as telephone and email support. The website will find your nearest hopeagain support group.

www.cruse.org.uk/children – Cruse Bereavement Care is a charity that offers support to people that have recently lost someone they love. They have a telephone number you can call if you need to talk on 0808 808 1677, or email support. They also offer face to face and group support in local areas.

www.winstonswish.org.uk/ – Winston’s Wish is a charity that supports children and young people that are suffering from loss. Young people have their own page with telephone and email support. The charity often puts on events to let young people meet each other and are able to talk about their grief.

Is this love?

Healthy relationships include feeling safe, being good friends, listening and communicating well with each other, having fun, trusting each other, having the freedom to do your own thing, having time to see your friends and family, as well as knowing that your opinions are respected and valued by your partner.

Do you…
feel safe
feel listened to and valued
trust each other
have the freedom to do your own thing
have time to see your family and friends
know that your opinions are respected
If you answered yes to the questions above it is a sign that your relationship is healthy.

If you answered no to any of these we recommend that you talk to a trusted friend, family member or a professional and let them know what kind of things you are experiencing. Everyone deserves to be loved for themselves and shouldn’t have to do anything they don’t want to do in order to be loved.

Everyone deserves a healthy relationship.
Emotional, Physical and Sexual Abuse are not a part of a healthy relationship. So, if you experience any of these you should talk to someone and get help. No one deserves to be treated like this.

If you partner calls you names, threatens you, humiliates you, blames you or insults you -you are not in a healthy relationship. This is a toxic relationship that is bad for both of you and each of you should seek help.

Under 13? – Call Childline on 0800 1111
11 – 16? – Text 07507331620 for support

16 or over? – Contact Women’s Aid on 01472 575757

Worried about your safety – Always call – 999
Emotional Abuse includes:
Name calling, threats, humiliation, putting you down, stopping you seeing your family and friends, putting you under pressure or trying to control you.

Sexual Abuse includes:
Pressuring you into any kind of sexual behaviour. Taking sexual photos of you and sharing those photos online, by text or showing them to other people. Forcing you to look at pornography along with offering you to someone else for sex. None of this is OK. Get help.

Physical abuse includes:
Someone hurting you. That could be hitting, slapping, punching, pinching or kicking you. It could include scalding or burning you to pulling your hair out. If someone makes you swallow something that hurts or makes you ill, including giving you medicine when you are not ill or do not need it, that’s also physical abuse.

Get help
If any of these things are happening to you, you might think it is your fault. It isn’t. No-one has the right to abuse you. There are people who care and can help. Speak to a teacher, trusted family member or friend or if you are aged 11 or over we have a selection of services for you.

If you are under 13 please contact Childline on 0800 1111
11 – 16 – Text 07507331620 for support

16 or over – Contact Women’s Aid on 01472 575757

If you are in danger ALWAYS call 999
Everyone deserves healthy relationships. Relationships include those with friends, with family or with a partner. You should feel safe and respected in any relationship. Do you know what makes a healthy relationship? Could you identify one that wasn’t? Below are websites which can help you answer these questions.

Riseabove – has everything you need to know about relationships. They have tips and advice from YouTubers and bloggers on love, sex, and friendship problems.
The hideout gives information on being in a positive relationship, and understanding what isn’t. In connection with Women’s Aid, a national charity that helps women dealing with domestic abuse. Hideout gives you helplines and websites to help you take action against domestic abuse.
Domestic abuse is a crime. It involves a person threatening, controlling and manipulating their victim. If you believe you are a victim of domestic abuse, you are not in a healthy relationship. The Humberside Police website gives you information and helplines you can call.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger you should call the police.

Bullying

Bullying can happen anywhere – like online, at home or at school. And it can happen to anyone. But nobody has the right to hurt you or make you feel bad.
Visit the Childline website for information about different types of bullying, building your confidence and assertiveness, blocking the bully, how to get help if you are being bullied or are a bully and understanding bullying vs banter.

School Nursing confidential text service -In North East Lincolnshire there is a new service run by the school nursing team – If you’re 11-16 years old TEXT your school nurse on 07507 331620 for confidential advice and support.

The first time

Getting through your teenage years can be a struggle at times. Especially if your friends seem to be advancing more than you. Don’t panic, everyone grows up differently!

As you get into your first relationship, go to parties, and meet new people, there may be questions you want answering but are too nervous to speak to your parents. Websites like RiseAbove and Childline have been created for this reason – they will understand, and help.

Remember, if you feel uncomfortable, don’t feel pressured into anything.

RiseAbove
From exam stress to puberty RiseAbove has you covered on everything you need to know. It has YouTube videos about relationships, friendship problems, and alcohol. It also has a problems page, letting you speak to somebody if you are worried or upset.

Childline
Childline is a safe place that lets you talk to somebody whenever you need it. Whether it’s to ask them a question, or vent at 3am there will always be somebody there. Not only can you freephone, you can email, and online chat – whichever is the easiest, and safest way for you.

Nidirect
Nidirect is a website that offers advice on a variety of topics from healthy eating to cyber bullying. You can find information on how to manage money, and what rights you have as a young person in the workplace. It is a useful website to keep bookmarked, and to check when in need.

Staying safe online

With the newest technology it’s never been easier to be able to keep in contact with your friends. You can even meet new people from all over the world and speak to whoever you like. However, this can also come with a price if you don’t know who you’re actually speaking to. Here are some tips on staying safe online:

Don’t give out personal information – You wouldn’t tell a stranger on the street where you live, so why somebody on the internet?
Never give out bank details – If a stranger on the internet ever asks for money, and promises they will give you it back it’s usually a lie. Never give out your full bank account – if you truly believe the person you’re speaking to, there are other ways to transfer money such as PayPal.
Never send inappropriate images – Once they are in the hands of another person you can never get them back, and that person is able to do absolutely anything with those pictures. If they ever ask for a picture that you feel uncomfortable taking, block and tell your parents or the police immediately.
Never meet somebody from online on your own – If you have become friends with somebody from the internet, and you are certain it’s them (ask to see them in a video call) ask a parent or an adult to come with you. Always meet up in a public space, and only if you are comfortable.
Remember – If they ever ask you to keep your conversations a secret, or meet with them without telling anyone – ALWAYS tell your parents or an adult, and block them straight away.

For more information on staying safe online, or if you want to report somebody. Please visit the Humberside Police website.

Worried about a friend

If you’re worried about a friend, you might not know what to do. They could be having a down day, or maybe you have noticed for a while they have been acting differently. Below are some tips on what you can do to let your friend know you’re there for them:

Be sensitive and patient – If your friend is going through a hard time they may not be thinking how their actions and words may hurt others around them. If they do say something abrupt whilst you try and talk to them, try and not take it to heart. Instead, persevere in showing you care.
Talk to them – Although this may be hard, you have to think how the other person is feeling. Maybe go for a walk or sit somewhere quiet and just ask if everything is OK. You don’t need to ask them personal questions, but a simple ‘how are you feeling?’ might get them to open up.
Encourage them to seek help – It’s more than likely your friend will refuse professional help, and won’t want to speak to anybody. Instead of agreeing with them, very gently nudge them in the direction of help and ask why they don’t want to speak to anyone. They might be too scared or shy – offer to go with them and if they want you to, even sit with them.
Check in on them – After you have spoken to them, and they have listened to your advice remember to keep checking in. Don’t ignore them, and remember they are still having these thoughts. Invite them round after school, or at the weekend. Let them know every now and again that you are there, that way they won’t feel quite alone.
There are many places your friend can go for support locally – the Young and Safe team support young people at times when they are vulnerable and need to be supported towards safety – their contact details are below. You could also look at the young people’s health pages for information about relationships, emotional wellbeing, drugs and alcohol and stress or our other pages about staying safe

The Youth Offending Service aims to prevent offending by children and young people. They work as a prevention and intervention service for young people that have entered the youth justice system or are believed to be at risk of doing so.

Safety tips on a night out

Your first night out or party will always be one to remember. You have no adult supervision and you and your friends just want to have a good time. However, sometimes there does have to be a limit. Here are some tips on how to have a good night, and not regret it in the morning.

Watch the pace – It’s not a race to see who can drink the most, and everyone has a different limit. You don’t need to catch up with your friends if they have had more than you. Drink the limit you know, and have a good time without waking up with no idea what happened the night before.
Eat something before you head out – Food helps slow the absorption of alcohol, meaning it won’t go to your head too quickly and you will be able to spend more of the night out with your friends and not becoming ill.
Plan how to get home – once you become intoxicated it’s easy to forget where you live and you can lose any sense of direction. Plan how you’re getting home, whether that’s with a friend getting the late bus, or catching a taxi. Remember to put some money aside for this so you don’t end up broke with no way of getting home.
Stick together – When you go out in a large group it’s easy to lose one or two of them as the night goes on. Maybe they found some of their other friends, or decided to go home early. Remember to arrange who is going home with you, and at least make sure you are always with one other person. This way you can keep an eye out on each other, and you won’t end up alone.
Make sure a taxi is a taxi – Always check before getting into a taxi. When it’s late at night and you have had one too many to drink, many people can take advantage. Before getting in, make sure you can see their I.D. and they have the local cab number somewhere on the taxi to prove they are from this area. If you are unsure, and wary never get into the taxi. Stay somewhere well-lit and ring a local taxi firm, that way you know the taxi is regulated.
Going out is fun, but it’s also good to remember these tips so you can get home safely, and not wake up with a headache instead of good memories.

For more tips on a night out, please visit the Humberside Police website.


Contact details

Young Peoples Support Service, Grimsby Institute Learning Shop, 3 Osborne Street, Grimsby, North East Lincolnshire, DN31 1EY

Email: admin.yps@nelincs.gov.uk

Telephone: 01472 313131

Opening times: Monday to Thursday 8:30am to 5pm and Friday 8:30am to 4:30pm, except bank holidays