North East Lincolnshire Council

Is this love?

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Healthy relationships include feeling safe, being good friends, listening and communicating well with each other, having fun, trusting each other, having the freedom to do your own thing, having time to see your friends and family, as well as knowing that your opinions are respected and valued by your partner.

Do you…

  • feel safe
  • feel listened to and valued
  • trust each other
  • have the freedom to do your own thing
  • have time to see your family and friends
  • know that your opinions are respected

If you answered yes to the questions above it is a sign that your relationship is healthy.

If you answered no to any of these we recommend that you talk to a trusted friend, family member or a professional and let them know what kind of things you are experiencing. Everyone deserves to be loved for themselves and shouldn’t have to do anything they don’t want to do in order to be loved.

Everyone deserves a healthy relationship.

Emotional, Physical and Sexual Abuse are not a part of a healthy relationship. So, if you experience any of these you should talk to someone and get help. No one deserves to be treated like this.

If you partner calls you names, threatens you, humiliates you, blames you or insults you -you are not in a healthy relationship. This is a toxic relationship that is bad for both of you and each of you should seek help.

 

Under 13? – Call Childline on  0800 1111

11 – 16? – Text 07507331620 for support

16 or over? – Contact Women’s Aid on 01472 575757

Worried about your safety – Always call – 999

Emotional Abuse includes:

Name calling, threats, humiliation, putting you down, stopping you seeing your family and friends, putting you under pressure or trying to control you.

Sexual Abuse includes:

Pressuring you into any kind of sexual behaviour. Taking sexual photos of you and sharing those photos online, by text or showing them to other people. Forcing you to look at pornography along with offering you to someone else for sex. None of this is OK. Get help.

Physical abuse includes:

Someone hurting you. That could be hitting, slapping, punching, pinching or kicking you. It could include scalding or burning you to pulling your hair out. If someone makes you swallow something that hurts or makes you ill, including giving you medicine when you are not ill or do not need it, that’s also physical abuse.

Get help

If any of these things are happening to you, you might think it is your fault. It isn’t. No-one has the right to abuse you. There are people who care and can help. Speak to a teacher, trusted family member or friend or if you are aged 11 or over we have a selection of services for you.

If you are under 13 please contact Childline on 0800 1111

11 – 16 – Text 07507331620 for support

16 or over – Contact Women’s Aid on 01472 575757

If you are in danger ALWAYS call 999

Everyone deserves healthy relationships. Relationships include those with friends, with family or with a partner. You should feel safe and respected in any relationship. Do you know what makes a healthy relationship? Could you identify one that wasn’t? Below are websites which can help you answer these questions.

  • Riseabove – has everything you need to know about relationships. They have tips and advice from YouTubers and bloggers on love, sex, and friendship problems.
  • The hideout gives information on being in a positive relationship, and understanding what isn’t.  In connection with Women’s Aid, a national charity that helps women dealing with domestic abuse. Hideout gives you helplines and websites to help you take action against domestic abuse.
  • Domestic abuse is a crime. It involves a person threatening, controlling and manipulating their victim. If you believe you are a victim of domestic abuse, you are not in a healthy relationship. The Humberside Police website gives you information and helplines you can call.

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger you should call the police.