Fourteen‑year‑old Amelia has been a young carer for as long as she can remember.
Growing up in a busy home with a single mum and four siblings, Amelia plays a vital role in supporting her family. Three of her siblings have additional needs, including autism, ADHD and dyspraxia, and Amelia steps in daily to help keep the household calm and functioning. From de‑escalating “meltdowns to running errands”, offering emotional support and making sure everyone feels included, she describes herself as “the support person” of the family.
Amelia became aware of her role at just nine years old, when her mum explained that what she was doing was more than just helping out – she was a young carer. Now, five years on, caring is woven into every part of her life. Although her day might look “normal” from the outside – getting ready, going to school, seeing friends – the reality includes constant responsibilities and managing her own anxiety while supporting others.
Home, she says, is “chaotic”, and the pressure can be overwhelming. What hurts most is when people dismiss her role as unimportant or assume she’s paid for caring. “It puts you down a bit,” she explains. “I help quite a lot – it’s not nothing.”
For Amelia, recognition isn’t about praise. It’s about understanding. She wants people to know that young carers exist, that their lives are often hidden, and that a little awareness and compassion can make a difference.
Young carers groups offer her a rare chance to breathe. “It’s my quiet time,” she says. “A place where I can be myself, enjoy my friends and not worry about what’s happening at home.”
Amelia continues caring because she loves her family deeply and wants to support her mum, who she says “can’t do it all alone.” Her strength, organisation and empathy keep their busy household ticking – but like many young carers, she hopes the world will start seeing the reality behind the responsibility she carries.
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